Feature: All of Your Sex, Dating, & Relationship Questions + Answers
By: G&B Staff + Students
I am Interested in: Girls
Do you prefer a boy to man-scape?
Yes, if they don't at least trim I'm out: 15%
Definitely, needs to shave everything: 5%
Doesn't matter to me, natural's cool: 20%
Do you always wait for a guy to make the first move?
"Texting is fine. That's what everyone does these days anyway. But if he calls, I know he's on a more serious level. He gets more points for that."
"If you always wait, you're going to be waiting a long time sister."
What are the signs that a date went well or not?
Responding without hesitation for a second date, talking/texting immediately following, smiley faces in texts
If a guy just got your number, do you prefer they text or call you?
Text: 72%
Call: 17%
Text then call: 11%
Have you ever participated in a threesome?
Yes: 3%
No: 97%
"No, but I have been offered and felt awkward when I declined."
I am Interested in: Guys
Do you like girls that play hard to get?
a. Yes: 29%
b. No: 39%
c. Sometimes: 32%
"No, that's obnoxious. Nothing else worth having plays hard to get."
Do you think friends with benefits can work?
Yes, if you set the ground rules: 42%
Never, hit it and quit it: 5%
No, they always get attached: 24%
Yeah, but only for a short period: 29%
After having a one night stand would you ever consider a relationship with that person?
a. Yes: 66%
b. No: 34%
"If the night was so awesome, it's worth having."
Do you ever lie about how many people you've slept with? (Over or under?)
a. Yes, over: 5%
b. Yes, under: 24%
c. No: 71%
What's your definition of "dating?" What's your definition of "a relationship?"
Dating is: casual, hanging out one on one, occasional sex, can see other people.
Relationship is: exclusive, changed Facebook status, calling them your girlfriend.
Feedback from Girls & Guys:
Is the way that someone texts a turn off?
Girls -
Yes: 87%
No: 13%
"Yes, not fully typing things out (ghetto type) wut, 2nite, etc. AND THE WORST 'Can I get a picture?"
Guys -
Yes: 76%
No: 24%
"ys if dey tlk lik3 diz den i haf 2 seckz dem immediately." "Yes, eye h8 thos gurls."
How long after seeing/ 'talking to' someone should you bring up the possibility of being exclusive?
Girls -
A couple weeks
"If you're sleeping together or feel that you or he would be hurt if you casually hooked up with another."
Guys -
1-2 months
When you're interested in a person, what's a dealbreaker?
Girls -
Bad breath, teeth, shoes, can't make me laugh, unkempt nails, player, STD's, lack of motivation, no job and no reason for not having one (school, military, etc.), being flaky.
Guys -
Bad teeth, smoking, clingy, unintellectual, had sex with their friends, man hands
What's the weirdest thing a partner has done during sex?
Girls -
"Pulled the whole 'Oh I didn't know that was your butt, sorry' thing."
"Not during sex but this guy used to lint roll his bed every time after...LOL"
Guys -
"Pretended to be a European who doesn't speak much English."
Nightlife: Body Talk
By: Julia Hienz
We’ve all done it: flirtatiously made eyes with that hottie across the room secretly (or blatantly, maybe) hoping that they’re single. Although it may be impossible to know exactly what someone is thinking about you, being able to read body language can help decode some of their opinions. G&B has done the research and picked out the most important physical cues to familiarize yourself with before heading down to Five Points. Read on and let the bodies do the talking.
Private Eyes
As obvious as it seems, making and holding eye contact is the first clear hint that someone may be into you. This goes for both sexes, and if eye contact is followed up with a smile or they move to be in a closer proximity, chances are they feel some attraction. Additionally, if you find yourself face-to-face with someone and notice that their pupils dilate (get larger), it’s good news: this is a physiologic response that occurs when a person finds someone attractive.
Mirror, Mirror on the Wall
Another common body language sign of both males and females is mimicking each other’s movements. It can be as subtle as uncrossing legs or taking a bite of food after the other person does. Mirroring allows one to sympathize with another without using words, and puts two people in sync. Pay attention next time you are sitting with a crush and see if they copy your moves!
Lady Lingo
Whip My Hair
Females do a variety of subconscious things to attract potential mates. One of the most telltale signs that a woman digs you is if she touches or fixes her hair when you’re around. General primping, also known as “preening” shows a woman is attempting to look their best and amp up attractiveness. If you’re spitting game to a girl and you notice she’s doing this: keep it up. She’s into you.
Kiss This
Reading lips (and I don’t mean from your buddy, mouthing the words “it’s in the bag” from across the bar) is another way to decipher a woman’s feelings about you. When a female finds someone attractive, she will do anything and everything to draw attention to her mouth. Common motions include pouting, licking, biting, and/or touching their lips.
Jitterbug
Women tend to fidget when they’re nervous. It’s a natural reaction that helps the body rid excess energy caused by anxiety. If you see a girl playing with her jewelry or steadily tracing the rim of a glass while around a certain person, she probably likes them and may have preoccupied thoughts about what she looks like or what to say.
Guy Code
Call Me Maybe
Men’s sexual body language errs on the side of primitive in comparison to women’s. One example being extremely loud laughter or talking. Bellowing chuckles allow a man to “mark his territory,” so to speak. It alerts to other males in the surrounding vicinity that the woman being spoken to is “theirs.” A subtler way that attracted men “mark territory” is by finding any opportunity to touch you, even in the slightest.
I’m Kind of a Big Deal
Another interested body language indicator is displayed when a guy sits up straighter or tries to make himself appear larger when you’re around. Attempting to be the largest shows that a man desires to be the “alpha male.” Prehistorically, the alpha male of a group was also the man most desired by women. A guy is probably REALLY interested if he also has open body language, like spread legs, uncrossed arms or is faced towards you.
Nose Knows
If you’re talking to a cutie and want to know if they think you’re cute too, look no further than the nose. This may be one of the smallest attraction hints, but flared nostrils many times indicate that a dude is turned on by your presence. A nervous, rapid heart beat requires more oxygen and flared nostrils allow for more air to enter the body. So don’t be creeped out if you see this, he’s probably just breathing heavier, not trying to get a whiff of your perfume.
Love Me, Tinder
When my dad was in college and he wanted to see a girl, he gave her a phone call and if she accepted, they went on a date. Twenty years later, I’m sitting in a college classroom thinking about how I haven’t really been on a date since I have been to college. Personal problem? Maybe - I am hoping to attribute the lack of romantic outings in my life to the huge difference in our generations and a new application called Tinder.
These days, if girls want to know what guys are into them, they don’t wait around for a phone call. Boys don’t need to worry about a rejection either, because now they have a heads up to whether or not the girl they saw in Five Points the previous weekend is actually interested or if she just wanted a free drink. Thanks to Hatch Jobs Inc., girls and boys alike can avoid putting themselves out there at all.
When I first heard about Tinder, it was in humorous conversations where people were making fun of their friends for having an insta-dating application on their phone. In the midst of Manti T'eo and Catfish drama, Tinder was a joke. Soon enough though, everyone was talking about Tinder; what started as a joke became serious. When I realized every single one of my roommates and friends seemed to have it, curiosity got the cat and I downloaded the application.
What did I discover? In order to set up your Tinder profile, the application syncs to your Facebook and allows you to choose five or so pictures from that profile to use for your Tinder. Obviously everyone chooses the most photogenic pictures they have, whether they’re accurate or not. Using pre-sets on your profile, the application finds people within a set mile radius. You can scroll through a potential match’s photos, mutual Facebook friends and what interests you have in common. If you like them and they like you, you’re a match and can use the app to converse privately. If you hit dislike, the person will never know; if a person dislikes you, you’ll never know. If your boyfriend/girlfriend is conversing with others via Tinder – you’ll never know.
Almost every profile that appears for a like or dislike is someone I already know or could easily go about meeting on my own, if interested enough. This application provides another way to allow technology to replace guts and courage utilized in my dad’s time.
I have come across several university athletes, fathers posing with their children and friends I see every day while playing the “Tinder game.” The variety of Tinder users is at large; I just choose not to be one of them. I deleted the app, not able to take it seriously. I won’t use it to find a “match” with someone I already know. I’d rather just meet them through fate. If you’re laughing at me for counting on fate to find love, just remember you’re probably the one counting on Tinder (we can call it even).
Image Source: Madisyn Kellough