So, after my experience as a single girl yet still being placed in this “crazy” category, when I least expected it, someone came along. And now I have been thrown into this “I’m in a relationship” category. This relationship is different from every other one I have been in. I hate to say this, but honestly, I think he’s more into me …
When it comes to relationships, people have to play it cool. There really are some crazy people out there who actually do jump in too quickly and end up drowning. So be careful of that. Let things take their course. I used to do that with guys, and it screwed me over in the end. Be confident. And if you have to, throw the ball in their field. Let them take things to the next level. No rush.
So, what is serious? Is it changing your relationship status on Facebook, meeting the parents, or — ahh, I am going to say it — saying I love you? How do you know when things are finally taking a turn?
Let’s go slow here.
Changing your relationship status is probably one of the first steps people take. Honestly, I think it’s “showing off” when you do that. When changing it on Facebook, you obviously want people or someone else to know that you’re with someone — purely desperation … in my opinion.
So, if you’re into that, that’s great, but remember that even the simplest thing like changing your status gives you less opportunities. When you’re in a relationship, technically you’re still single until you have a ring on your finger.
So if you’re truly independent and confident in yourself, then keep your options open. Don’t limit yourself to just one person for the whole world to see — unless you’re married, of course.
Now, let’s move on. Meeting the parents is definitely a sign of “I could see myself with you for a long time.” And that’s great. But, if someone is introducing you to his parents within a month or so, that person is treading too quickly around seriousness. So, beware of those who jump to this step too quickly because maybe they aren’t confident enough in themselves to know exactly what they want.
Ahh, OK, here it is: the “L” word. This is along the lines of meeting the parents. It means a potential forever. So be careful with this. As my 18-year-old brother would say, being in love with someone is different than saying, “I love you.” He says the “L” word to his girlfriend. Ridiculous. Oh, those dumb, high school relationships.
Now, don’t get me wrong, that is semi-true, but not with relationships. Yes, with your parents and family of course. You’re not in love with them, but you say, “I love you.”
But in relationships, there is only one line that can be crossed. And that is being in love. This is something you don’t play around with. When the right time comes to say it, whether you’re a guy or girl, say it when you truly mean it, not because you’re drunk.
There are some other ways of being serious. For me, it's the key. After my boyfriend gave me the key to his house to let his dog out, he said, "Just keep it." This is an “I am over 25” type of serious. I kind of forgot about the whole “let me give you a key to my place” serious. I feel like this type was always portrayed on shows like “Friends.”
But this is a “big girl problem.” So don’t worry about this if you’re under the age of 25ish. This doesn’t mean don’t be prepared if the key pops up in the middle of your palm someday.
Anyway, when it comes to being serious, look for the signs above. Those are the major ones that mean someone is very interested in you in a serious fashion. Just remember not to jump into anything too quickly. Play it cool, or you will drown.
